As it turns out, these qualities end up being the least important on the list. The things that will REALLY make you truly happy in in the long run are rarely those portrayed in magazines or movies.
Here is my idea of just a few of the things that make the "perfect" guy:
- A man who jumps up to help out, whether it be the housework or changing dirty diapers... not because you asked him to, but simply because he feels it's his job, too.
- A man who doesn't necessarily start out having a flashy career or gobs of money, but instead one who is talented, hard working, and driven. With those qualities he'll likely always find work and success.
- A man who is willing to scrub vomit out of the carpet at 3 in the morning because he wants you to be able to get some sleep.
- A man who fixes the car or takes on repair jobs around the house to save his family money.
- A man who doesn't judge how fancy your wardrobe is, or how you fix your hair, or what a number on a scale says, but loves you far deeper than any of those things.
Especially in the last 3 weeks, I've watched my husband go above and beyond on my behalf. He has been by my side every spare second. He has washed me, fed me, dressed me, and cared for me more than he ever could have guessed would be asked of him over 14 years ago when we first met. I'm overwhelmed with gratitude for this man. Sure, 6-pack abs are nice, but they never would be strong enough to have carried us through times like this.
Profound words from Gordon B. Hinckley: “I am satisfied that happiness in marriage is not so much a matter of romance as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion. Any man who will make his wife’s comfort his first concern will stay in love with her throughout their lives and through the eternity yet to come.”
5 comments:
You're so wise.
Not going to lie, I was crying by the end of this. It *may* have something to do with the fact that I am, um, especially hormonal at the moment, but this was just so lovely and sweet.
AMEN SISTER! :)
P.s. can you email me your digits. My home phone died and I had to replace it...want to give you a call!
What wisdom!!! Truly!!! If young men and women would heed these thoughts on how to choose a good mate, and yes, how to BE a good mate, families would thrive! And thus, cultures would also thrive! Thank you for your post.
It's so nice to know that the same little boy who decapitated all of the Barbies at our house, has turned into such an awesome husband and father. Gives everyone hope:) Such a nice post, and very true.
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